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Define respect.

I heard once that teachers and students are at odds over the same thing.  R-E-S-P-E-C-T.  Teachers complain most often about a lack of respect.  Likewise, students complain most often about a lack of respect.

It’s funny how something so universally important and desired is so seldom felt.  I believe the issue lies in the diversity of our understanding of respect and not in our willingness to offer respect to one another.  This was confirmed when I polled my students and asked them to define respect.

You guessed it: no two definitions were alike and mine did not match theirs.

My charge to you today is to start this conversation.  Ask your students:

What does respect mean to you?  How do you know if you are being given respect?  What do you do to respect others?

Keeping in mind that the microcosms of classrooms often suffer from a collective feeling that respect is absent, please emphasize the actions behind respect.  Respect is a verb.  How we do respect is just as important as the ways in which we feel respectful.

As part of our larger mission, we want to equip kids with the tools they will need to live happier, more empathetic and resilient lives.

I’m confident that sharing our diversity of opinions about the what and the how of respect will enable our students to better understand one another, to feel more respected and to receive the respect that new people they encounter will offer them into their future.  Because, without an awareness to receive the respectful actions of peers and colleagues, we cannot enter into a respectful relationship with them.

Younger kids can work through this exercise, too.  They will need more supports and models of examples of respect.  This is a great opportunity to reach out to families and incorporate storytelling and tradition sharing.

I hope you’ll share what they come up with!

Hugs,

-AK

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A sense of urgency and acceptance

If I were asked to define what success looks like for The Eight Hugs Curriculum, my answer would be to inspire a sense of urgency and acceptance.

My goal is to light the fire of urgency in the hearts of the adults who influence children’s development everyday.  This work takes a village.  Educators already know how important this work is.  I’m here to elevate their concerns and give them the tools they need to reach kids and to reach them quickly.

My second goal is to teach children about acceptance.  Truly, acceptance of ourselves and others will unlock the door to happiness.  This curriculum is about teaching children self-awareness and self-acceptance.  Brene Brown, PhD has claimed time and again that we can only extend love and appreciation to others if we are experts in offering love and acceptance to ourselves.  Acceptance is integral to happiness.

May is Mental Health awareness month.  A site for social workers is offering these pressing reminders which speak to the importance of both urgency and acceptance:

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We have much important work to do my friends.  I’m honored you’re here alongside me.

Hugs,

-AK

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Providing a framework

This article, which was published yesterday, provided another sober reminder of the global demand for social and emotional learning in the classroom.  The author opens with her experience working with students on a Native American reservation, which resonated with my experience working as a teacher on a reservation.  Then, she provides similar experience from a colleague teaching in China.  Violence and emotional trauma abounds worldwide.

As teachers, the more we learn about our students the more appreciation we have for their reliance on us, the adults, to provide a framework for dealing with everything that’s going on in their lives.  Sometimes they merely need a sounding board.  Other times they need to be referred to a professional.

The Eight Hugs Curriculum can in no way substitute for sound, professional mental health help.  Nevertheless, we cannot enter our classrooms without acknowledging the life happening outside their walls.  Emotional intelligence cannot be divorced from academic intelligence.  By starting the conversation, we, as teachers, are saying:

Your feelings are valid and navigating them is difficult but integral to life success.

Don’t be surprised if that is the first time they’ve heard that message.

Surely, we are not trained to provide counseling support.  Instead, I hope that through the lessons on neuroscience we can provide a context for the busyness of their hearts and their brains which will encourage self-exploration instead of self-loathing.

Hugs,

-AK

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Is meditation what’s missing?

Who doesn’t want a more zen classroom?  Even students yearn for peace of mind.  Have you heard about educators who are embracing meditation as an avenue to promote calm and focus in their classrooms?  Some schools are doing this alongside a yoga practice, while others are simply instilling “quiet time.”  The data on this mirrors data from other types of social and emotional learning (SEL) = school success rates go up!  This infographic graphic from Edutopia says it all.

Meanwhile, this group is bringing mindfulness to classrooms in the UK.  They have lead massive group meditation sessions with thousands of students.  Pretty impressive!  I especially like their resources, which include a story narrative to explain to younger kiddos how peace and happiness come together in meditation.

Later this week, I’ll have another lesson download.  It’s an inquiry based exploration of classroom meditation!

Hugs,

-AK

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